Alternate reality: What if we chose all this?

A guy I know once told me about this theory his shaman shared with him. (Yup, his shaman.) The shaman said that before we’re born, we actually choose the life we are going to lead, based on the challenges we want to face and lessons we’d like to learn. Right down to every detail, we know exactly what we’re getting into. We asked for each thing, explicitly.  We gather everyone we’re going to know or interact with in that life, and we tell them exactly what we’re choosing, what we want to learn, and how we hope our earth self will handle it. The shaman suggested that this is a thing we perform over and over.

I immediately loved this idea. It flooded me with a sense of relief and inspiration. And I’ve been pondering this reaction to the idea ever since.

This morning it hit me: This idea gives me agency. False agency, perhaps, but agency nonetheless. I really like the idea that in this shaman’s reality, I sat down and deliberately chose everything about my life. I can picture myself there in a room of familiar faces describing what I’m about to do:

“Alright, you guys. This is going to be an adventurous one! I’m going to have this rich, artistic, chaotic, warm and loving first few years of life, full of color and music and love. Then things are going to get rough… in like… a lot of different and super difficult ways. There’s going to be family difficulty. There’s going to be really serious, mysterious, shifting and long-lasting illness. There’s going to be these super challenged romantic relationships. There will be huge financial burden. Shit, I’m going to lose absolutely everything right there in the first third of the experience. There’s going to be so much internal strife and frustration and longing. I chose these predicaments that are going to make earth me feel really desperate, afraid and alone. I’ll have a lot of success and do a lot of fun things, but I’m also going to really suffer. And I’m doing this because I want to learn to detach from expectation, transcend minutia, practice being really present and accepting, and get really good at cultivating gratitude. I want to find richness in the difficulty. I want to feel strong, powerful and resilient. I want to be unbreakable… not because I overcame these things… not because I wasn’t broken… but because I learned to live in brokenness, celebrate my humanity, and find beauty right there amidst all the pain.

You guys are going to have an interesting time with this one too. Some of you won’t know how respond to me. A lot of you won’t know what to say. Some of you will want to fix everything all away… the reality will be too hard for you to sit with. A bunch of you will be like ‘what happened now?!’ about a hundred times throughout this life! It’s not going to be easy to handle this earth me. I’ll be complex, sensitive, cautious and afraid. But some of you will be drawn to me. Some of you will relate. Some of you will like how raw I will become, how open, sharing, and expressive. Some of you will, like me, find strength in the act of standing naked and unarmed, wrecked in the face of a cruel earth yelling defiantly ‘I’M STILL HERE’. Either way, I believe this pursuit will be a beautiful expression of humanity, a radically entertaining adventure, and full of opportunities to grow in ways other life story lines just wouldn’t support. Thanks for being in on this one with me. Let’s do this.”

I’m pretty sure at the end they all do that thing where you put your hands together, chant something inspirational and then yell BREAK and shoot down to earth so the adventure can begin.

It’s a fun fantasy. And beyond giving me a sense of agency, choice, and control it also makes me want to rise to the occasion, to greet difficult experiences with openness and to appreciate the opportunity. It makes me want to strive for the goals that would-be spirit me set out to achieve.

Anyway. I enjoyed pondering on this concept this morning. Would love to hear how this idea strikes you! And what you think spirit-you might’ve been thinking as they came up with your set of experiences and realities, what they wanted to learn. If you’re inspired to, please reach out to share your thoughts!



Treatment Recap: Months 23-25

Time flies when you’re having fun! I have been updating the blog a lot less lately because I have been out ENJOYING LIFE! For the last 3 months I have been riding my bike, lifting weights, dating, playing with girlfriends, and enjoying the magic Seattle summer.

Indeed, I seem to have my feet planted firmly in wellness these days. At my last doctor’s appointment, ending month 25 of treatment, we went through my list of symptoms. Just one left: Ringing ears, which I have had consistently since fall of 2014 and just consider permanent damage. I’ve accepted this, deeming my wellness complete. I am happy to live in this state of health forever.

Sure, I have a few things that could be Lyme… maybe. My eye twitched a little last week. My sinuses are often swollen and itchy. My eyes are kinda sensitive to the florescent lights at work. After a REALLY intensely cognitive day, I struggle to think of the right word in conversation with friends.

But none of these things are ever consistent, they leave as fast as they come, they improve with rest / change of circumstance, and I hear my normal human healthy friends complain of the same types of things all the time. So, I don’t really think these are symptoms of anything, except symptoms of living in a human body.

Part of this, I’m sure, is due to the fact that I started a new job recently. The days are LONG and hard and full of learning. I have a new commute, I’m getting to know my teammates, I’m learning a new part of the Microsoft business, I’m figuring out all the processes and rules and documentation, I’m navigating the maze that is my new building and broader campus, I’m working 50-hour weeks solving complex business problems with people who are much much smarter than me and it is… intense. The very fact that I am able to do this is testament to me of my healing! This wouldn’t have been even a remote possibility just a year ago. But I do notice the worn-down sensations in my body come 6pm.

I’m sensitive to any change in my body. The truth is, I’m scared. Because all of a sudden, I have this life I’ve been dreaming of… I have the kind of life I wasn’t sure I’d ever see again. It’s here and it’s staying and it’s time. It’s time to embrace that, to say out loud I am WELL and to start weening off meds. And that’s scary. I’m scared it’s all going to come rushing back, and that I won’t be able to stem the flow, and that I’ll be lost once again… perhaps not to be reclaimed. And so, I notice every little thing my body/mind does that doesn’t seem quite right. I notice, and I measure.

And although I am scanning for issues often, I don’t live in fear. (Thank you therapy.) I live in acceptance. I live in now. But “now” is complex. I live in this body that’s been through a lot. I live in this mind that finds everything hard to trust. I live with the hard truth that I can’t possibly know whether I’m going to get sick again. I live with a conscience that means I look in the eyes of guys I want to let myself fall for and say, “I don’t know how this is going to turn out.” I live in a heart that has a hard time asking them to love me anyway. I live in mourning and shock, still… of everything I went through.  I live in awe of all the possibility laid out in front of me again.  I live in a body that wants to stretch, bend, flex and MOVE. I live with a sprit that wants to chase every challenge and conquer it completely. In moments, I dare to live in hope that I will get to experience all the dreams I am often too afraid to even admit I have.

I think most people expect me to be purely elated that I am well now, and… I am. I really am. On the days I’m on my bicycle with wind in my face and miles of road stretched out ahead… I often tear up with gratitude over everything given back to me. The freedom to experience the full capabilities of my body and my mind… the steadiness of my emotions and the consistency of living day after day in a body not routinely thrown into new and troubling states of disarray… it is EVERYTHING to me. But every time I feel that gratitude, every time I notice how great everything is, there’s a quick second experience that’s heavy, dark and horribly sad. There is a deep pain over the amount of suffering it took to get here. Over everything I lost. Over everyone I know still suffering. Over the complete lack of support we have. Over the invisibility of this fight and this condition. Over this heavy shit and ever present fear I have to carry forever now.

But I will focus on the bike. And the wind in my hair. The steady love of my few good girlfriends. And the beautiful eyes of curious boys.  And I will live right here, right now, in wellness.

For those wondering what treatment ahead looks like, a good friend of mine put it beautifully when she said “welcome to the balance beam.” I am well now, and the only question left is, what will it take to stay here? So over the next 6 months, I will taper off prescription antibiotics as much as I can, with an aim to transition completely to herbs. I plan to keep my diet pretty clean, but might sneak the occasional cocktail. I plan to get rest, exercise, and just try to walk this line of health. And as time and experimentation go on, I’ll find the right combination of “things I do” to preserve me here in good health. I’ll keep everyone posted as often as there is news!

Wishing you ALL happy healing.


How am I treating? No single thing has gotten me well. Here have been my main areas of focus:

  1. Under the care of an ILADS Lyme-literate doctor, I am using antibiotics, biofilm busters, supplements and herbs to treat Lyme and Bartonella.
  2. For several months, I used 1 scoop of Cholestyramine twice a day to deal with mold exposure from my ill-fated home purchase in October 2016.
  3. I follow a dairy/egg/gluten/sugar/caffeine/alcohol-free diet. I eat paleo type meals for my “core” meals, but I do also eat things like rice, beans, tortilla chips, tacos, Thai food and the occasional vegan / gluten free pizza when I’m dining out with friends.
  4. I have done “emotional cleanup” in my mental health life, including CBT therapy to address thought patterns that don’t serve me, I let go of a romantic partnership that wasn’t supporting my healing, and I made a strong investment in a positive social network (online and off).
  5. In month 3, I did LymeStop in Idaho in addition to my antibiotic therapy. while I am skeptical that it was healing, it certainly may have helped. I did one follow up visit 3 months later. I did not take any of the LymeStop supplements.
  6. In January 2016, I had my 23andMe results analyzed by Bob Miller. And although  I discontinued his supplements, I had been on them for the entire year of 2016.
  7. In June, 2017, I began working with Samantha Gilbert who designed me a diet and supplement plan to optimize my genetic expression for health (namely addressing undermethylation and copper toxicity).

Making a run for a comeback 

This is a milestone I’ve been counting days toward for YEARS now. I got that barbell in my hands… and I fought back tears of joy. 

Presses, KB swings, planks and pulls ups. Some running, and barbell thrusters for extra work. Holy cow. Is this real life??
Treatment works. And wellness is… it’s sweeter than I even dreamed. 

This is everything. 

Battling Fears in South Dakota

Well. I camped in a big grassy plain known to have ticks. I took precautions – I wore my socks pulled up, I sprayed my feet with deet and I did tick checks often. And I didn’t get bit (that I can tell). 

More importantly, I didn’t let my fear ruin my good time.

This is a big moral victory for me.

Lyme is a huuuuge hit to the psyche. Getting as sick as I did physically, mentally and emotionally; falling through the cracks of our medical system; being told I was crazy for nearly a year while I became more and more disabled; getting saddled with an incurable disease that regular doctors can’t treat, that there’s no clear treatment guidelines for, that insurance doesn’t really help with and that costs me $25k a year out of pocket; being unsure of exactly how I got it, whether I’ll recover, how to get well or what I can do to stay safe; and living with unanswerable questions about what this means for the choices I make in my life about where I can safely live, who I can safely couple up with and how I might one day build a family.

Lyme disease is straight up trauma. And PTSD is a real thing.

Along with working to get well from Lyme + co. itself, I’ve worked really really hard to “recover” from the trauma of getting sick with Lyme. But a little voice lives permanently in my head now telling me I’m unsafe, and that at any moment, everything that means anything to me will unravel.

But that voice didn’t win this weekend.

And that’s another weekend I got to live in wellness AND joy.

Lyme Disease Awareness Month

Happy Lyme disease awareness month!

Look what I was doing two years ago today…

Crazy, right?? I am amazed it’s only been two years. It felt like a LIFETIME going through it. And here I am, darn near remission. I am SO grateful. 

If you’re looking for ways to celebrate the month, head over to my new Karla Fights Lyme Facebook page. I’ll be sharing awareness images every day this month that you can easily pass on to your own network. 

Sending you all wishes for happy healing!


A girl and her bike: A story of reclamation 

For as long as I can remember, I’ve longed to be a bad ass lady cyclist.

As a kiddo, I’d see the streams of riders traveling single file along the rolling hills at the base of the cascades where I lived. Clad in their bright colored spandex, I knew they were settled in for long, beautiful rides. I wondered what they’d see… how far they’d go.

As a young adult, I’d stand at the tennis courts at Cal Anderson Park (where I’ve never seen even a single sole with a tennis ball). Fingers clutched through the chain link fence, nose pressed through the gaps, I’d watch the bike polo players as they chased the ball on their fix gear rides. Impeccable balance, CRAZY finite control skills and creative street fashion, I loved every single thing about them. Sometimes I’d move over to the bleachers and just spend a warm summer evening alone under the glow of the park’s night lights just enjoying the game. Wondering if I could ever move a bike half as well.

But learning something new is scary. Especially something you DESPERATELY want to be good at.

Tolerating failure didn’t come very naturally to me. I hated looking unskilled. I was afraid to ask newbie questions. I never wanted anyone to see me do poorly at anything. My pursuits were safe. They were calculated. They were mostly things I could learn in private.

I had started to get over this set of fears when I began CrossFit in 2011. After all, no one could possibly expect me – a non athletic, ultra tall string bean – to be good at Olympic lifting. It was SO far outside my experience, I felt pretty ok admitting I had no idea what I was doing.

One day, when I reached far beyond my ability for an overhead squat PR, I fell under the weight of the bar. Mortified, my face flushed red. The voice in my head told me right away I’d done wrong and should be ashamed for even trying such a thing. And I was listening. But just a half second later, a louder voice quickly overpowered it. My coach, Evan, bellowed from across the room, “Fuck yeah, Karla!!! Way to go for it!”  And right there, as I lay splayed out on the gym floor with my barbell bouncing behind me, it clicked: Failure is how you get better at things.

Again. Faster.

For the next 4 years I was too obsessed with weight lifting and CrossFit to think about any other athletic pursuit. I sort of forgot about cycling.

And then…. I got sick.

When I suddenly lost my hearing and developed a vestibular disorder in October 2014, basic movement became hard. Staircases were the scariest thing I’d encounter. Bending over to clip leashes on my dogs took all my effort and energy. And the day’s hard work was often a hiking pole aided walk to the end of my driveway and back.

Many months into my illness – even after my vestibular system and hearing recovered – overwhelming fatigue, a failing thyroid, plantar fascia inflammation, joint pain, muscle spasms, aching knots, tremors, and more kept me from much activity. It’d take me ages to walk even the very short distance from my new city apartment to my office. I stopped for rest often. Sometimes I’d have to get on the bus. There were a lot of tears during this time. I felt just desperate, broken, scared and alone.

In short, nothing very athletic was even on my mind. Every day I simply strove to survive. To keep air in my lungs long enough to see another day. To hope I’d find answers, to hope I’d find treatment, to hope I’d find progress. To hope I’d even find hope.

Eventually, answers came. In July, 2015, after 9 months of shifting forms of serious disability, I tested positive for late stage Lyme disease. I was clinically diagnosed with Bartonella. I began antibiotic treatment. I cleaned up my diet. I tried to reduce my stress. I did my emotional housekeeping. And I just… plugged… away.

4 or so months in, I started to see progress. The nose bleeds stopped first. Then some of the pain. My eyesight got a little more consistent. I started to have a little more energy. I began to sleep through the night. Month after month, I tracked my progress. And my symptom lists got shorter.

In the Spring of 2016, I was well enough to try my hand at dating for a bit. And the boy I fell for… was a cyclist. All of a sudden all the things I’d longed to love were up close in my life thanks to him. In May and June, we went for a handful of short bike rides together… my first since I was a kid. I’d ACHE for days afterward, but my heart was flying.

Shortly into the season, he was biking distances I couldn’t have even hoped to try, and I got off my bike and became a cheerleader. In July 2016, the morning of the Seattle to Portland bike ride, I filled his belly and kissed him goodbye at my doorstep around 5am. I met him at the finish line about 16 hours later. I cried and cried when he crossed. I felt alive, electric, and full of love for everything surrounding me that day. Sometimes I wonder if maybe that day meant even more to me than it did him.

You see, I wondered more than once, standing at that finish line, whether I might be able to accomplish such a feat someday.

Just a few weeks later, he and I parted ways… his dream of biological children was just too high on his wishlist for him to part with, and he arrived at my doorstep one morning to tell me I “wasn’t worth the sacrifice”.

That was the last time I was in love.

In my aching heart, I realized that much of what I missed (besides partnership and love in general) was bicycles! But the season had me moving into a cold, dark winter. And I was distracted with house shopping. I resolved that, as soon as life – and my body – would let me, I’d learn to be a bad ass lady cyclist.

Well. You all know how well the whole house thing worked out for me. After two and a half weeks in my beloved South Park townhouse, I fled it forever to escape toxic mold. I left all my belongings behind. Every. Single. Thing. And the only one that made me cry that day… was the loss of my bike, which I left in what felt like a pile of shattered dreams.

After a few months of couch surfing and toiling over how I might save my home, I realized the pursuit was fruitless. I resettled in a vintage apartment in the Capitol Hill neighborhood of Seattle. I moved into my new place with a single set of fresh, uncontaminates clothes, a sleeping bag, and a Christmas tree.


8 days later, I bought a bike.

I started out with a couple of easy rides. One alone on the Burke Gilman trail. “Bonding with bae,” I called it on Strava. Another was a Tinder date with a very patient Russian. And in February… rainy, cold February… I started riding with Cascade Bicycle Club in their Getting Ready to Ride series.

High on the excitement of having finished my very first GR2R series ride, I ambitiously and excitedly signed up for the Cascade Training Series – a 13 week training program that would begin immediately following GR2R in April. With maybe 40 aggregate miles under my belt as an adult, I was reaching right for the program that would take me to my first century.

Again. Faster.

The rides that I went on with Cascade Getting Ready to Ride series were all over the map. Every single week was my longest, hardest, scariest ride. I went my first 15 miles, then 20 and finally 25. I climbed my first hills. I tackled my first switchbacks. I stretched for the faster pace group. I got left behind. I learned to change a flat tire. I cried. I laughed. I made new friends. I wondered whether I’d be fit enough and fast enough and have enough endurance to actually participate in the Cascade Training Series. My ride leaders kept telling me, “you’re ready” in spite of my still pretty slow pace and very shaky self confidence.

April 8, 2017, I arrived at Cascade Bicycle Club for our first CTS ride. I tied my yellow ribbon to my helmet and nervously made my way through the bustling crowd to my self selected pace group, Yellow 7. I reminded myself over and over that it was ok to get dropped to Yellow 8. It was ok to get left behind completely. It was ok to quit this series altogether if I needed to. I had tried. My faith in my body, it seemed, was in no way restored.

I rode 25 miles with my new group that day. I rode at the front of the group. I even climbed the steep switchbacks among the fastest of them. And at the end of that long afternoon, I loaded my bicycle onto the back of my car smiling ear to ear. I was doing it!!

I went home that night, and I registered for the 2017 Seattle to Portland ride. “I have no idea if I’ll make it to that ride,” I reassured myself, “but I have a spot saved if I decide to try.” A few weeks later, after and inspirational speech by a woman who climbed Everest, I booked my hotel at the finish line and my train ticket home. Little by little, my confidence was building.

I’m 4 weeks into my Cascade Training Series now. I am in the saddle 3, sometimes 4 days a week. Just last week I rode 97 miles  in total. This week, I’ll do my first half century.

Every ride is still my longest, hardest, scariest ride. I’m nervous every single time I get geared up. I spend hours out on the Burke Gilman trail practicing the skills everyone else long ago mastered: Taking my hands off the handlebars, signaling, stopping, dismounting, starting again. I ride hills on loops, giving those baby cyclist muscles the care and feeding they need to grow. Every day I wake up and, one way or another, I support my goal.

I still don’t know whether I’ll finish the Cascade Training Series, if I’ll make it to the STP, or if I’ll cross that finish line. But I know I’m at the start of something really great here.

And if I do cross that finish line on Sunday, July 16, 2017 – on what will be my 2 year anniversary of treating late stage Lyme disease – well, I’ll consider this body of mine reclaimed.

And I just might finally call myself… a bad ass lady cyclist.

What about babies?

Man. As if dating isn’t hard enough. Dating with late stage Lyme disease? It’s proving a bit disastrous as of late. I mean, it’s not hard in the ways you might expect. I come up with plenty of alcohol-free date ideas. Most people are pretty darn empathetic about the whole Lyme thing. And for the most part, I’m accepted just how I am by potential suitors. With one exception: Babies.

I suppose it’s because I’m 33 now… and the guys I’m dating are mid to late 30s. But it seems like the main thing on everyone’s mind is procreation. And even though I tell fellas in the FIRST COUPLE DATES, that I feel I am reproductively challenged… they still manage to dump me for that exact reason THAT THEY ALREADY KNEW months later. It is THE most frustrating thing.

It’s been frustrating enough that I’ve gone back to the drawing board on my stance on having biological kids. I mean, when I first realized that my multiple sclerosis diagnosis was a mistake, and that I had hope of achieving lasting wellness with Lyme disease, the FIRST thing I thought was, “maybe I can have a family”. Later into my fight with Lyme, I became aware of all the risks involved with biological babies, and once again shut down that particular part of the “have family” dream. But the landscape on Lyme disease understanding is changing SO rapidly, I think I owe it to myself to keep abreast of all the current research before I marry any single idea about how I might build a family.

Of course, opinions vary WILDLY here, so I’m just going to add this disclaimer: I am speaking in this blog about only my stance and the thoughts in my brain about my personal comfort level with the notion of having biological kids. I cannot tell you what is right for everyone. And I don’t blame any Lymie who makes a different decision than I do.

For me, when I think about having biological kids, I worry about several things:

  1. Passing Lyme disease & coinfections to the unborn child
  2. Passing Lyme disease & coinfections to my baby daddy
  3. Relapsing due to the stress of pregnancy
  4. Having a difficult pregnancy due to my sort of more fragile body
  5. The higher risk of autism, miscarriage and other complications.

Honestly, #3 and #4 is what scares me the most. They’re all super valid, but there are comforting facts about 1 and 2 at least (and 5 by extension).

The protocol for preventing transmission of Lyme, at least, to unborn babies seems to be getting better. Articles and video (58:25) by Dr. Marty Ross has been my main source of information on this subject. According to him, small studies and one old Lyme disease database suggest that Lyme transmits about 25-50% of the time from infected mother to unborn baby. But, when the mother is treated with an antibiotic during pregnancy, that risk drops to “nearly 0%”. Nearly 0% sounds pretty good to me.

I would also assume that this reduced transmission of Lyme to unborn baby would also reduce the risk of #5 on my list, as Lyme infection in the fetus is what’s thought to cause the higher risks of autism and miscarriage. Now, this isn’t perfect, obviously. Coinfections are still a problem. But I guess I hope that if the baby doesn’t have Lyme, it may be easier for them to fight off a coinfection. After all, it’s my perspective that Lyme infection alone isn’t what makes us so sick, it’s a combination of factors that includes our overall infectious load status. The fewer infections I can pass to my baby, the better. But if they don’t get Lyme, which seems to bog patients down the most, I think they’re better equipped to handle what I DO pass.

I am slightly less worried about item #2. Not because it’s not a risk… it is. Lyme disease has been shown to exist in sexual fluids of both men and women. This doesn’t 100% mean it’s transmitting this way, but it’s likely. And anecdotal reports sure seem to suggest this is happening. But, I worry less about this because A) my would be baby daddy is a consenting adult who can assess the risk and make his own decisions, B) I believe Lyme can be treated pretty darn effectively when it’s JUST been transmitted, C) I think putting dad on his own antibiotics while we are “trying” might be an option, and D) I don’t think everyone who contracts Lyme disease is devastated by the illness – this post about MSIDS explains my perspective on that a little more. In short, I think dad could be totally ok.

So that leaves us with #3 and #4, which are my biggest unalleviated concerns. You see, getting well from late stage Lyme has been sooooo challenging for me… and I’m single, childless, and financially able to afford most of what I want to try from at treatment perspective. This means I have been able to sleep as much as I want, sit in detox baths for hours every evening, cook and eat healthy food as I needed to, and throw every bit of excess cash I make at getting well. That is NOT how I imagine things would be if I had a newborn.

If I relapse during pregnancy, or shortly after, I think it’d be REALLY difficult to have the finances, the rest, the diet and the routine needed to get well. And I come from a family where there isn’t much help. I’m not physically or emotionally close to most of my siblings, and my parents, despite how much they love me, aren’t set up to be the type of grandparents that play an active, daily role in my kids’ lives. And in most the relationships I’ve been in, I’ve been the main income earner… which I imagine predicts I’m likely to be a working mama. NONE of this sounds like the right combination for having the amount of help I’d need to get well.

After losing a couple of guys I was pretty wild about building a life with over this, I recently posed this question to myself: “Under what conditions would I feel comfortable having a biological child?”

And after a little soul searching, I was surprised to find that the answer wasn’t “none”. In fact, if conditions are JUST right, I might actually go for it. But I would want the following:

  • To be damn near symptom free before even thinking of trying (check)
  • A seriously emotionally supportive and empathetic baby daddy who is down for all these risks
  • A joint income or collective wealth that would make it very easy for me to take a lot of time off after the baby was born
  • A network of multiple people (ideally his family) willing to play a for reals, active, daily role in helping us with all of life’s demands post baby
  • A doctor willing to treat me with antibiotics during pregnancy and test the little tyke shortly after he or she is born
  • The willingness to stop after 1 baby if things are complicated or difficult
  • The willingness to stop trying if I am unable to support a healthy pregnancy

So that’s where I’m at on this! I spoke to a doctor last month about getting my tubes tied, and I’ve decided not to do that. I’ll get an IUD instead. I realize that the likelihood of me ending up in the situation described above with enough time on ye olde biological clock left to court one another, get hitched and still have time to make a baby is PRETTY FUCKING SLIM. I mean, I’ve been on about 100 bad dates this year alone… if Prince Charming with all these incredible resources is out there, he’s taking his sweet ass time finding me. BUT, if he somehow does, well… I’ll keep the hardware around to give it a whirl.

The truth is… whether the kids are biological or adopted… the opportunity to build a big crazy family with a partner I really loved and felt safe with, well that’d be an incredible blessing.

Comment below with your thoughts on this trying subject! I’m curious to hear.

Wishing everyone happy healing.